A friendly discussion is as stimulating as the sparks that fly when iron strikes iron. Proverbs 27:17, TLB
Intimacy is the courage to be vulnerable, the necessary strength to be weak together. There is no way to avoid hurt in a relationship, although we should try to minimize the possibility and grow in our ability to reduce its intensity, spread, and duration by working through the injury as soon as possible. Being vulnerable, as one fallible human with another, means that hurts are inevitable but not irreparable. We will be hurt by each other if we live with each other. Since both pleasure and pain are essential to being alive, we must learn to handle our hurts to enrich our joys. In fact, working through our hurts, we deepen our love.