THEREFORE thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest: for wherin thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest doest the same things. Romans 2:1
Learning how to separate our "who" from our "do" can be very challenging. It takes acknowledging that we may do things that God is not pleased with, but He is always pleased with who we are because we are in Christ.
Paul teaches us in the book of Romans that once we know who we are in Christ, our behavior (our "do") will change. We cannot change our behavior on our own. It takes the help of the Holy Spirit to make the transformation that is needed from within us inorder for our "who" and our "do" to line up.
Have you ever notice that the same characteristics that bothers you about someone else, is the same one you possess? Funny isn't it? I know for me, out of my three children, my oldest daughter can irritate me the most. When I finally sat myself down to give some serious thought to this situation, I realized that she exhibits a lot of the same behaviors I did before I gave my life to Christ. So I have to constantly remind myself that just as Jesus changed me, so will He change her; it's just a matter of timing.
Romans 2:1 teaches us that the thing we judge in other people, we do ourselves. We tend to justify our behavior, but show little mercy,if any at all, to others. We never think about what it would be like if God gave us the same mercy we give to others.
The Golden Rule (do unto others as you would have them do unto you), is one that I live by. I am very mindful not to do to people what I don't want them to do to me. Although there are times when people do things (hurtful) to me that I didn't do to them, I still believe in this rule. I know that when I am treated unfairly, God will vindicate me. Even though I may feel hurt, disappointed, or frustrated at the time, I have faith that God will work on my behalf because I didn't provoke the behavior.
It is very important that we keep an open mind and have positive thoughts concerning others. Doing so teaches us to have compassion for one another, and helps us to overcome our flaws by edifying one another; not tearing each other down. It also helps us to look at them through the same looking glass we look at ourselves through: rose colored glasses. BE BLESSED!