...What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder. Matthew 19:6b
On Saturday, we had a Marriage Seminar at our church. The couples ranged from being married 4 months to 45 years. AWESOME! It was a blessing to be surrounded by couples who have been married for so long. My husband and I are coming up on our 11th wedding anniversary in June. It seems like the time has flown by. We still talk about our first date, which took place 16 years ago.
One of the activities we had to do was to write on a label one thing that keeps our marriage together. Some of the responses given were: communication, being best friends, committment, etc. Then we were instructed to peel off the label and place it on the glue stick that was in front of us. The purpose of this activity was for us to remember what we said that keeps our marriage together during those times when things become challenging or unglued.
We all know how difficult it can be at times to remember why you married your spouse when things aren't going the way you planned them. We allow circumstances to overwhelm us and cloud our judgement until what was once rational thinking, can turn into irrational thinking if we are not careful. Jesus clearly tells us in the above scripture that what God has joined together, no man should separate.
Marriage is an holy institution that shouldn't be entered into likely. When we stand before the minister and repeat our vows to one another, we need to have clear understanding of what they mean. For better or for worse, means just that; for richer or for poorer, means just that; in sickness and in health, means just that; until death do us part, means just that. We stand before family and friends and say these vows, then when things become difficult, we forget about what we said. That's why it is so important to allow God access to our marriage. Invite Him into your marriage, keep Him in your marriage. It is the only way I know to have a successful marriage.
I find it interesting how God makes the correlation between husbands and wives and Him and the church (see Ephesians 5:21-33). We are to love one another just as Christ loves the church; unconditionally. We are to adhere to the Word of God so that our marriage can be sanctified unto the Lord. We are to bring glory to God in everything that we do. Therefore, we need to make sure that our words and actions are lining up with the Word of God.
Just as Christ gave of himself to the church, so are we as husbands and wives. We are to love one another as we love ourselves; to nourish and cherish one another just as the Lord does us.
Regardless of what you may be experiencing in your marriage, remember that God is only one prayer away- Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock and it shall be opened unto you. Matthew 7:7
Love beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 1 Corinthians 13:7