And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve... Joshua 24:15
I remember when I first learned that there are only two spirits in this world. That we have a choice to serve God or Satan. That we can choose to operate in righteousness or unrighteousness; to do good or evil. The more relevant this revelation became to me, the better I became at handling conflicts and disagreements. Once I came into the knowledge that it's not the person we have the problem with, but the spirit that is operating in the person, I began to seek God on how to deal with those issues that were presenting themselves in my life. I have a list of scriptures that pertains to any emotion or obstacle that we might face. I keep it near so that I can have easy access to it in my time of need. This list constantly reminds me that there is nothing that I will face on this earth, that wasn't faced by those in the Bible (there is nothing new under the sun). As I began to refer to those scriptures, I realized that the more I read them, the more I started to change. I began to not focus so much on what I was feeling, but on how the other person may be feeling. I began to try to understand where the person may have been coming from, and the role I may have been playing (whether intentional or unintentional) as to why they felt the way they did. It gave me more compassion for the person I was in conflict with.
There are times when we can find ourselves being very judgemental toward others. We love giving our opinion whether it's ask for or not. But in reading the Word of God, God teaches us that first, we have no right to judge; secondly, we will be judged the same way we judge; and third, judgement belongs to Him. Who are we to think that we are so holy that we can point the finger at others who fall short. It is only because of God's grace and mercy that we are still here (For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God-Romans 3:23). Therefore, we need to be very careful about what we are saying about others.
The more we allow the Word of God to take an active role in our lives, the more Christ-like we become (hence the word Christian). We don't have to announce to the world that we are Christians; they should be able to see it through our lifestyle. When the Holy Spirit dwells in us, no longer are we able to do those things that are not righteous and not be convicted for them. Nor do we want to. It becomes our goal to do those things that are pleasing to God. It's no longer about self. You begin to ask yourself, "What would Jesus do in this situation?" (As you mature the question becomes, "What did Jesus do)?"
Looking back over my life, I realized I spent a lot of time allowing the enemy to rule in my life. I said whatever I felt at the time when angry, I did things that I knew were wrong or at least not acceptable. But God! He took me, cleaned me up inside and out, made me a new creature in Him, and gives me opportunities each day to be a servant for Him. It is through my service to others that they might see Jesus in me. What about you? Can Jesus be seen in you? Can people look at how you treat others and tell which team you are on? If not, it's time to do a self-evaluation and in doing so, ask yourself this question, "Who Are You With?'
Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. Matthew 5:16