I BESEECH you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God , which is your reasonable service.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God. Romans 12:1-2
It is so easy for us to point out the flaws in others, but hard to see those same flaws in ourselves. I find it very interesting that the quality that bothers us in someone else, we possess. And when the similarity is pointed out to us, we get offended and defensive. We make excuses as to why we are the way we are, but refuse to show empathy for others. Why do you suppose that is?
After many days of feeling frustrated, disappointed, and just fed up with my children; constantly praying to God to CHANGE them, God sent me a message that said, "Become the change you want to see." I was like "really Lord. I was asking you to change them, not me." (Because after all, I am the one who is water baptized and Holy Ghost filled- surely it's not me who needs to change). But, how many of you know that it is us who needs to change because of that very reason. We are God's children. We have been called to a higher calling. We can't continue to operate through our emotions ( as the world does) and live according to the Word of God. Romans 12:2 clearly tells us to be not conformed to this world, but to be transformed by the renewing of our mind. We have to operate in the spirit inorder to be like Jesus. If we continue to allow our flesh to rule us, then how can we witness to others and expect to see a change? Operating in the flesh diminishes our credibility. Why would anyone feel the need to change what they are doing if the person telling them to change, is doing the same thing? Think about it. Would you change given the same situation?
When we decide to become followers of Christ, we have to have made up in our minds that we are going to follow Him regardless of situations and circumstances that WILL come about. We have to purpose in our hearts to trust in the Lord, no matter what it looks like, and continue to seek Him on our behalf. Knowing Him or hearing about Him is not enough. You have to know that He is a present help in the time of trouble (Psalm 46:1), that He will never leave you or forsake you (Hebrews 13:5), and that you can come to Him all that labour and are heavy laden and He will give you rest (Matthew 11:28). You have to develop a relationship with Him. The bible tells us to "study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth (2Timothy 2:15). See it's not enough to just hear about Him, we need to seek Him!
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. (Matthew 6:33)
So the next time you are inclined to ask the Lord to change someone else, ask Him to help you change. I have learned to ask God to allow me to see the good in people. Help me not to focus on their flaws, but on their good points so that I can encourage them to continue on. And I can honestly say that He has helped me in this area. Thank You Jesus!
Remember: BECOME THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN OTHERS- IT WORKS!!!!!